I've been thinking a lot lately about the the size of our house and where on earth we'll put a new baby. can we really fit 6 people in this house? the subject doesn't seem to bother me as much as it does other people. i'm torn between amusement and annoyance when i hear the wonder in there voices as they question "when are you going to get a bigger house?" and "where will you fit another kid in that house?" while other people seem to be worried about crib placement and privacy (what's that?), i have realized that we have unintentionally become co-sleepers.
when corrina was a baby, i was adamant that she would learn to sleep on her own and she would not sleep in my bed. that worked until she was 2. then, we moved and she spent some time with my mom while i got settled. my mother spoiled her, ruined her by not making her sleep alone. when she came home, she slept with me until she was 4. however, around 4 (probably a little sooner), she no longer wanted to sleep in our bed and quietly started sleeping in her own bed.
we never had a problem getting kennedy to sleep. she would happily lay in her crib and put herself to sleep. georgia, however has never (and still doesn't) sleep through the night. she has pretty much been by my side at night always. when kennedy was about 18 months old (shortly after george was born), we tried to move her to a toddler bed, thinking that george might sleep better in the crib instead of the bassinet. neither one liked the new arrangement and both ended up in bed with me. my husband ended up on the couch for a while. then, we moved all of the girls in one room. kennedy started sleeping in the toddler bed and we added an extra full size bed for george (and me).
i don't understand why this tends to be such a hot button topic. i want my children to always feel loved, safe and secure. i want them to know that i'm always there when they need me. i don't want them to feel like they are a burden in any way. i don't like the idea of letting them scream (especially when they're babies) just because i want to be alone. people told me when corrina was litttle and when kennedy started sleeping with me and with george too that i'm spoiling my children, keeping them from being independent and that i would never get them out of my bed. right now, i don't agree with any of those things. if i only have to roll over to wake corrina up to get her off to high school in the morning, then i'll worry. when george wants to fit a full size bed in a dorm room so i can sleep with her, then i'll have to put an end to it.
i've never put much thought to co-sleeping. i've never really had an opinion for or against it. i didn't set out to make it part of my parenting style. it's just something that seems to be something we fell in to, something that works for us. as it turns out, i am a co-sleeper and i wouldn't have it any other way.