April 5, 2011
I love my doctor, she's absolutely wonderful, but there are so many things that I don't like about hospitals. First of all, why do I have to be hooked up to a monitor and an have an IV pumping fluid into my body the whole time I'm in labor? This makes it difficult to do what I need to do to deal with the pain. Can't I just stay hydrated by drinking water? Are the fluids really necessary? What am I allowed to refuse and will I be able to do it without being reprimanded by the staff?
This brings me to my second point-the staff. I realize that most of them have been doing their jobs for a while and that they are well trained and knowledgeable. I respect that and I respect what they do. I only wish that respect was always mutual. Every time I have a baby, there is always one nurse who has a huge problem (and is very verbal) with our choice to not vaccinate our children. It always leaves me checking the baby for needle marks.
Here are some other things I'm not looking forward to:
-being stuck in the hospital after having the baby instead of being able to come home and get in my own bed when I'm ready
-being made to read materials and watch movies on how to take care of a baby
-keeping the baby in the scratchy hospital gowns instead of in her own clothes.
-having people feel they should take the baby and let me rest
-feeling obligated to take all of the crap they want to send home with me and I won't use (formula samples, coupons for diapers and stretch mark cream)
Ideally, I would give birth in a place that I am absolutely comfortable being in, with knowledgeable staff members who respect my decisions and experience as a mother. I would also love to be able to stay as long as I need/want and no longer than I choose, and I would ultimately have the final say in my treatment without feeling like I'm doing something wrong. I really wish I would have put more thought into this earlier and done some research.
Where did you give birth? If it was in the hospital, were you comfortable being there? Are you comfortable refusing treatment from medical professionals?