February 29, 2012

Things to Remember: First Time Childbirth

Sometime over the next couple weeks, my super cute sister-in-law will be giving birth to her first baby.  A baby girl.  My second niece.  Between me and my 2 brothers, there will 6 girls in our family.  I'm OK with that.  I like girls. 

Anyway, I thought I'd share a couple things I've learned to help ease the anxiety first time moms feel before having a baby.  It seems that people seem to focus on pain.  "It's going to hurt, but it's worth it."  Both of those things are true, but I'm not a fan of saying that.  It's doesn't do much good to relieve fear.  So, here's my not-so-expert advice, for what it's worth.

1.  Take it as it comes.  You're probably pretty uncomfortable at this point in the game, but shouldn't be in any pain.  Focus on making yourself as comfortable now as possible.  Don't worry about things you're not feeling yet.  Focus on now.  Can I handle this right now?

2.  Don't focus on someone else's birth experience.  Every woman is different, every baby is different.  Just because someone has told you a horror story, doesn't mean it will be the same for you.  You may handle it like a rock star.

3.  Your body and mind are amazing.  Your body knows exactly what it needs to do.  It will do it without your telling it to.  Your mind will find a way of shielding you from this.  Go ahead and mentally check out, your body will do all the work. 

4.  Don't let yourself be talked into or out of anything.  Hospital staff can give you their opinion in the delivery room and friends and family can give you their opinion before, but only you know what you can or can not handle.  Don't make decisions on things like epidural or cesarean before hand.  Use a wait and see attitude.  Go with your gut.  It's usually right.

5.  If you are uncomfortable with anything at all, say so.  Don't like the position of your bed? Change it.  Want some privacy?  Ask for it.  Don't want the mirror at the end of your bed?  Move it.  Don't like the attitude of the hospital staff?  Say so.  Don't worry about offending anyone. 

6.  Don't let yourself feel guilty over any part of your delivery.  All births are different and all are amazing.  Don't beat yourself up over opting for an epidural or yelling at your husband.  You do what you think is best for your and baby.  The only thing that matters is that you are both safe and healthy.

What advice would you give to a first time mom?

February 28, 2012

Becoming A Mommy

Kennedy and Georgia have both decided that their ambition in life is to be a mommy.  One goal, but two very different ideas of how to get there. 

Kennedy understands that in order to become a mommy, you start by having a baby.  She spends her time making sure the babies are safe, happy, comfortable and taken care of.  She spends a lot of time making meals for people and breastfeeding.  She definitely gets the nurturing side of motherhood. 

Georgia thinks that becoming a mommy has more to do with work and less to do with babies.  She spends her time with a sponge cleaning the dishes that Kennedy dirties.  She vacuums the floor. 

She gets so proud of herself for saying things like "Don't give me that look, Stella".  "Did you hear me, mom?  Did you hear what I said?  I'm almost a mommy!"  "Yes, I heard what you said.  You shouldn't say things like that to the baby."  "But, mom, you say it to Corrina..."

They are both so very right and yet both ideas together only scratch the surface of what it takes to be a mommy. 

Recently, they started changing the toilet paper roll when it's empty.  They both believe this to be one of their biggest accomplishments.  They seem to agree that this is one job that  only a mommy does and by doing it, they are both well on their way to becoming good mommies. 

February 14, 2012

getting better all the time

It's Valentine's Day again.  I have to say that I am getting better at this whole school/holiday party thing, though I still have TONS of room for improvement.  For example, once again, I remembered to make valentines, but forgot those pesky little boxes the classes require you to make.  So, once again, I was throwing those together an hour before each party. 
Also, I didn't buy a single gift for anyone, not even a card.  I did order a gift for my husband, and even did it with plenty of time to have it here by today.  For some reason, my order was inexplicably canceled.  There wasn't time to reorder and get it here so I didn't bother.  Pathetic, I know.  We did, however, manage to find a babysitter for a couple hours Saturday and have dinner together.

I know that's a pretty big list of things I didn't do.  Here, however are some pictures of things I actually did.

We made Valentine's for the kids at school. 

Kennedy took these

These are Corrina's.  I got the idea and printable here.
I made card boxes

Kennedy's was the same one Corrina made last year

George's was made from the cake box I used for the cupcakes the morning of the party.
Here's the back. Imaginative, I know.

Corrina's was a heart shaped purse.  I forgot to take a picture.  If it's still in one piece after school, maybe I'll add one in.

I made cupcakes for both Kennedy and Georgia's class

strawberry cake on top, brownie on bottom.

the recipe is here.

I fixed heart hair.  I was way out of my element on this.  I'm horrible at doing hair.  Have you seen mine?

You can get a tutorial here.

I did Corrina's too, but again, forgot a picture.

So, Happy Valentine's Day to you.  What kind of Valentines/Boxes did your kids make?  Did your husband buy you something great? 

February 13, 2012

Is One Death More Important Than Another?

If you read my blog, you will know that I never write about current events or pop culture.  I don't watch much TV or read magazines.  I don't get worked up about the lives of celebrities.  I don't know what goes on in Hollywood and I really don't care. 

The world knows that Whitney Houston died over the weekend and even though it didn't happen in Bikini Bottom, even I heard about it.  I'm sorry.  I am not a die hard fan of Whitney.  I didn't cry, won't be attending a memorial service, won't be playing her music any more than I did before or joining a Facebook page dedicated to her memory. 

I am, however, bothered by these pictures I see making the rounds on Facebook.  I understand the sentiment.  As Americans, we seem to care more about frivolous things than we do things that really matter.  Celebrities seem to take precedence over serious problems.  I agree.  I also find it ridiculous, but is this really the best way of making that point? 

Taking one tragic event and playing it against another makes no sense.  I can do that all day long.  All over this country, children are beaten, neglected, starved, uneducated and die.  How would people react if I posted a picture of one of these children against men on a battlefield with the caption that the child didn't enlist in poverty?  It would piss people off. 

My point?  Death is tragic.  It doesn't matter who you are or how you die.  Human life is precious. Whitney Houston was a mother, a daughter, a friend and so much more to many people other than her fans.  It shouldn't matter if she went to rehab or had a troubled life.  I'm sure there are men and women on a battlefield somewhere who can relate. 

Celebrities are celebrities because we (the ordinary people) make them that way.  If you have a problem with this, stop watching TV, seeing movies, buying magazines and downloading music.  If you really need to make the point that people don't care about real issues, I'm sure you won't have to search long to find something really ridiculous.  Lindsey Lohan put her belongings in storage and the movers are trying to sell pictures.  I'm sure someone wore an awful dress to the Grammy's last night.  Did Katy Perry bash Russell Brand during her performance?  I could go on, but I think I've wasted enough of my time looking up celebrity trash.

February 9, 2012

Looking In

I thought that I'd ease myself back into blogging with a You Capture post. 
I seem to spend a lot of time looking in things.

Inside toys.

Inside mouths to discover new teeth

Inside pans to see if my rolls are rising

Inside my cupcakes

In my rear view mirror

You can find more pictures "looking in" at


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